The Rules Of Adult Dating?

Posted on April 4, 2012 by ramerez

Even though we are adults in adult dating there are still rules we need to adhere to. Quite often we will forget really what is expected of us in our rush to have sex with someone, or the short-cut communication we can enjoy on dating websites these days. But adult dating does have some rules we would be best to follow.

1.) Make the date. Whether we make a meet someone online or we are given somebody’s phone number after jawing with them a bit in a grocery check-out line, if either person is interested in making a date with the other, and it seems all parties are amiable and hoping a date comes to pass from this interaction, somebody best make the date or the date will not happen!

2.) Keep the date. There is nothing worse than standing somebody-up and in this day and age, with all the communication we have at our ready, we can make even the smallest effort to tell someone other plans came up or we are running too late to make it this time.

3.) Be the date. When you are out adult dating, at the very least, be present on the date. You might find that your grocery store attraction isn’t panning out for something as even short term enough to share a meal with someone or your online flirting is bringing you no real off line heat, still be polite enough to see the date out to a logical end, even if you end it quickly. Don’t use the cell phone as an excuse not to at least converse with someone, or spend all your time texting and not giving your date the time of day.

4.) Have the sex if you want the sex. Sure, in adult dating we all have to determine when we are going to do what we are going to do and what it is exactly we want to do, but playing hard to get as an adult serves no purpose but neither does having sex only because you feel your partner wants it.

Opposites Attracting

Posted on March 30, 2012 by ramerez

The idea of seeking out a sex partner who is not our type, far and away different than any person we have ever known is a wildly attractive concept for some single people. But do opposites really attract, does the unknown really represent mystery that can be turned into something sexy? When do our pursuits become too opposite, too unusual, too exotic; foreign simply to be foreign to our experience? When will a contrary world-view, a clash of cultures, a simple thick and impossible language barrier become a burden? Does that someone we have never encountered, only maybe fantasized over represent an intrinsic spark to a prurient interest that is intriguing, or off-putting? Can we really make a go of it when we encounter someone so different?

We see a chasm of different between east and west cultures and Asian sex-whatever that term really means-does at times represent intriguing tendrils to the west as does western sexual culture send prompts across the world to the men and women who are interested in a contrary view point and way of life, even physical characteristics of possible partners totally unlike them. The contrary intrigue of people not like us is why at one time hot asian porn was so enticing, especially at a time when many cultures viewed that kind of coupling as verboten. Nowadays, as most adult daters surmount the prejudices of skin color what we really have left to intrigue us oppositely is customs and mores and there are none more opposite then those between the west and the east.

This is why Asian sex does have a place in western culture as fantasized and sometimes fetishized ideal as much as why often time American porn does so well in the east. It is the idea of the unknown, the unfamiliar and in some ways opposites attracting when we all know that even though we might look drastically different then someone, or speak a different language from them, we all want, enjoy and fantasize about our sex, Asian or any other, pretty much the same way.

Waiting For Sex

Posted on March 14, 2012 by ramerez

Women who are new to online dating and newly single often wonder just how long they should wait to have sex with a new guy that they’re dating. It can be pretty confusing these days, especially for women who have been in a really long term relationship that has spanned a decade or more. So many things have changed in recent years that the dating rules from the last time they were single may not be the rules they want to stick to now.

On top of that, there’s a lot of conflicting information out there. It seems that the double standard that women had once been held to is going away, but in some cases it may be going away slowly. Male relationship coaches have posted articles online that more than imply that a woman who wants a serious relationship with a man should make him wait. They seem to be saying that even these days, when a guy gets into a woman’s pants relatively quickly and easily it will devalue her in his eyes. They suggest that making a man wait and prove himself, that making him wait until he’s willing to make some sort of commitment of exclusivity will make him see the lady as more of a long term possibility. Even famous matchmakers on television pound it into women’s heads that there should be no sex until there is monogamy.

In real life though, does that work? How many guys these days will stick around for months of dating if they’re not getting physical intimacy? In the real world, people usually want to move more quickly than that. There may be some men who would hold that against a lady (in spite of the fact that they were full participants too), but there are probably even more men who won’t tolerate a woman using sex as a way to manipulate. In the end, every woman needs to do what she’s comfortable with and accept whatever possible consequences there may be to whatever she chooses.

Free To Be

Posted on March 8, 2012 by ramerez

Over the last decade or so, dating has gotten significantly easier. Technology and computers have made it possible for everyone to meet people that we would never have gotten a chance to meet in real life several years ago. We can meet people on dating sites that are geographically close but who maybe don’t frequent the same places that we go, and therefore we never would have run into them anywhere. We can meet people who live in places we’d possibly be interested in moving to so we can have people to date all lined up before we even pack a box. We can meet people in places where we plan to vacation so we can easily have a little vacation fling. No matter where the people are, we can now keep in touch regularly and inexpensively. Long distance charges and huge phone bills are truly a thing of the past. With web cams, we can see each other on our computers from anywhere in the world.

Not only do we have the ability to meet people we would have never met in the past, we have a lot more sexual freedom than we have ever had before. We have greater protection against unwanted pregnancies and great protection against sexually transmitted diseases. We can be more open about our sexuality and can date either gender or both, usually without fear of losing our jobs or having our kids taken away or being blackballed out of our neighborhoods. We can date any ethnic background and no longer are forced to get married. We can have pre-marital sex without fear. We can have friends with benefits if we choose to. These days we get to set our own rules and create the lives that work with us and for us. There is a lot of freedom in being able to be true to ourselves and not having to live according to someone else’s expectations. We’re all very lucky to live in the times we are living in.

Know What You Want

Posted on February 14, 2012 by ramerez

People on the online dating sites are usually hoping to eventually find a serious relationship amidst all the dating and sex and fun that they’re having. It’s great to date a lot of different people and have a lot of fun experiences with new people, but it’s also a wonderful feeling to realize that a dating relationship is getting more serious and meaningful. That deep emotional connection developing between two people is very moving and special. It’s exciting to start feeling that we may have found what we’ve been looking for in another person.

Finding the right person isn’t just a matter of luck, although sometimes it feels like it must be nothing more than pure luck. Part of finding the right person though is knowing what it is we’re looking for and what traits we’d like the person to possess, what interests we’d like them to have in common with ours and what things are negotiable. It may sound silly, but it helps to write it all down. Writing a list of traits, characteristics and interests our ideal mate would have is the best way to start. Don’t hold back and don’t leave anything out. This is the dream list, so put it all on there no matter how unrealistic or impossible it may seem. Include sexual interests, hobbies, and domestic capabilities. Write down everything that comes to mind.

Once that’s done, it’s time to assess each desired requirement and prioritize how important it really is. Using a scale from one to five, with one being a non-negotiable must have, rate each thing on the list. Next, cross out anything that was rated a 4 or 5. These were the least important things on the list, so they’re the things that we can live without. Next, re-write the list with the priorities grouped together. Take a look at the list every so often to see if anything has changed and update it as necessary. This will help with staying focused on what we really want.

Watch For Signs

Posted on February 9, 2012 by ramerez

Any guy that wants to be the king of dating in his area should learn to really pay attention to the women he goes out with and listen to them. Women will give all the clues a guy could possibly ask for when it comes to what they want, whether they’re interested and when they’re ready for sex.

The lady will surely let a guy know in many ways, but not the least of which is her body language. If a woman licks her lips a lot or plays with her hair while she’s talking to a guy, she’s interested. Not only is she interested, she’s thinking about kissing and sex. Now that doesn’t mean that she wants to have sex that night, but it does mean that she’s thinking of the man in sexual terms and that’s a good sign. Most women know within the first 10 minutes of the first date if this guy has any chance at all of sleeping with her in the future, but even if she decides that he does, it doesn’t mean that she wants it that night. Take the body language as a good thing, and plan on another date with her a soon as possible.

Let the lady lead the way when it comes to when to have sex. It’s fine to let her know that there is definite interest, but try not to be tacky about it because a lot of ladies won’t respond favorably to that. Moaning during a first kiss is a turn off for a lot of women, even if she was giving signs that she might eventually be interested in sex. Getting too physical too soon may also turn her off. Think romantic right now in order to keep her interested. Be manly, but not too pushy and definitely not forceful. Kiss her firmly but not uncomfortably so. This is not the time for a kiss on the cheek because that could land a guy in the friend zone.

Good Manners Impress

Posted on January 9, 2012 by ramerez

Online dating is a great way to meet people who may be great possible dating partners, but what happensafter the connection is made and it’s time for the couple to meet in person? If a guy wants to stand out, he needs to impress the lady and give her an unforgettable evening. A lot of guys may assume that means spending a ton of money, but that isn’t necessarily the truth. A lot of women like being treated like a lady, and they’ve unfortunately gotten pretty accustomed to men who don’t know much about courting or behaving like a gentleman.

If a guy really wants to impress a lady these days, courting her will leave a lasting impression. It takes a bit of effort, but the payoff is definitely worthwhile. Most ladies enjoy knowing that the man they’re out with realizes that she’s worth the effort. Women who are impressed with a man will usually agree to a second date, and more often than not they will start seeing the man as a potential sex partner as well. Women like feeling wanted and important, and courting her will definitely make her feel special. Taking the time to learn some of the chivalrous actions that were always displayed by old-fashioned gentleman is a great way to start. Hold doors, pull out her chair, help her on and off with her coat and offer an arm when walking together.

Open the car door for her, even if arriving. Simply ask her to please allow you to get the door. Most women will be extremely flattered by the attention. Call several days in advance to ask for a date, and plan a date that involves some of her interests. She’ll definitely be impressed. For more ideas and tips on how to behave like a true gentleman, try watching some old classic movies, especially romantic comedies. The leading man in those movies was nearly always a great example of a perfect gentleman.

Friendship and Dating

Posted on January 4, 2012 by ramerez

The best relationship is the one that where the romantic partners are also best friends. That is the only true way a Match will make it. A match based on anything else will not make it. At least it will not be a love relationship.

There are some people only interested in an adult relationship and some sex now and then. They aren’t interested in dating for any other reason. If they avoid getting into anything with a person expecting romance and love out of it then they can find what they are looking for. They just have to be responsible about it. The people that are looking for more however will want to make sure they are with someone they can relate to and share a friendship with. The way this works is that they have to see each other as friends and do those things that bind it. They have to enjoy each others company outside of romance. They can’t be fucking hard against the wall and composing poetry all the time. They have to hang out, and watch a movie. They have to do the things that friends do. This is how they build. It can’t be built in one day. It takes time to cement a real friendship. When that happens they will have discovered a completely new dimension to their relationship as a whole. Then they can truly take off and find that after a while they are with their soul mate.

That is how it really works. It is a very rare thing that people are perfectly fit for each other the first time they meet. Most of the people out there have to go through a growing and meshing process before they reach that. It doesn’t make that relationship any less special. In fact it could be said that it is more special.

Smooth Sailing

Posted on December 9, 2011 by ramerez

Remember that Adult dating is all about finding the right person. It’s not just about finding the right type. If you are into gay or lesbian Adult dating then you want to find the right place for you. It’s easier to just go to a dating site that caters to that preference than it is to go mainstream where you will be less welcome. If you want to find quality and decency then you’ll more than likely have to pay for it since free dating sites might be less well kept up.

Then there is the quality of people there as well. If you are a reasonably well educated person that enjoys theater you might have a lot more going for you if you find a fuck buddy that enjoys that too. You don’t want to go having sex with someone that doesn’t have anything in common with your interests. At best you might have a very dry and less than pleasing experience. Just remember to be patient and take the time because when you do your really investing in your future. You wouldn’t just buy the first car you came across so why would you just hop on board with the first dating site you come across.

Look around and find a dating site that promises the things someone in the single and looking category might find interesting. Just take things free and easy and don’t stress over much about things. Too many people get desperate and they let that desperation cause them to make less than well educated decisions. Then they have a string of failed relationships behind them. Don’t be one of those people. Pick your shots and take them carefully and you’ll see it works out. Would you rather go through the hassle every week or would you rather take a few weeks of looking find just what your looking for.

Landscaping

Posted on December 5, 2011 by ramerez

It’s a common misconception for new people to the scene that going to an Adult dating chat room will have a lot of people talking about sex and fucking and everything naughty under the sun. They expect to find a casual dating partner in no time and are surprised to find people in the Adult dating website to just be talking about landscaping or some such.

This is because the people frequenting chat rooms in places like that are regulars and they’ve gotten to know each other to some degree and they have pretty much staked it out as their place to meet and talk. They’ve gone beyond all the sex talk and though they might be interested in something casual they aren’t exactly jumping on the first thing that comes along either. If you really want to score here then you need to follow along with whatever conversation is going on and make sure your invited into it.

Don’t just barge in because you may get quickly ignored. Then you’d be shot down before you could even really get into the air. If you casually get in and start chatting then go with the flow and have fun. Then if the person your interested in responds well to a little flirting take it a little farther. Then just basically let them take the lead. If they are interested in something more they will let you know. Then you can message them privately or send email and talk further. Then you can begin to open things up a bit and talk about sex if that’s your game.

If things continue to go well you exchange phone numbers and get to know one another. The final step is meeting in person and when that goes well your probably having sex. Then you can close out the deal and either continue with them or move on to something else. It’s all about being low key and friendly and casual dating.

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